We love shakespeare but a Five hour monologue about yourself?
DO ask your date about themselves
One key element of establishing relationships, both romantic and platonic, is by showing your interest in another individual and making it clear that you're eager to get to know the person on a deeper level.
Especially with online dating, we are often getting together with someone who we've never met and who we have no mutual friends with. This means that it's even more crucial for us to learn about the other person and to remember that relationships are a two-way street.
During one of my many online dating escapades, I once met a guy for drinks and thought that our date would last one or two hours tops (I paid for metered parking with this time span in mind); My date ended up being far more chatty than expected and only enjoyed talking about himself rather than asking me questions too.
I would occasionally try and interject one of his lengthy monologues with a comment about myself to help him understand that I'd been through a similar experience or that we had something in common, but needless to say, he wasn't interested in learning more about me.
One drink turned into three drinks, and I even had to go outside and add money to the meter, hoping that sooner or later, he'd be interested in getting to know me too. Unfortunately, I had to end up graciously ducking out after FIVE hours and ended the date knowing his full life story but with him not even knowing basic facts about me.
Amy is a cutie from Austin. She enjoys working in the nonprofit sector, binge watching documentaries, and dreaming that her life was a musical. For December, she's sharing some pointers for online dating.