The Do's and Don'ts of Online Dating #1

Amy is a cutie from Austin. She enjoys working in the nonprofit sector, binge watching documentaries, and dreaming that her life was a musical. For December, she's sharing some pointers for online dating.

As someone who has subscribed to multiple dating apps throughout the years, I've had my share of both good and bad dates. These dates have made for some memorable experiences that, for better or worse, have helped me learn a few dating tips of my own:

DO upload photos or videos that show the real you

We all understand the desire to make sure that your best qualities are visible in a dating profile.

Most of us are easily browsing through dozens of profiles a day and we're generally only spending a fraction of time examining each profile before deciding to form a connection or to dismiss the profile entirely.

Because of this, we all want to put our best foot forward--to make sure the picture or video that we upload shows us at our best angle or in our best shape. That doesn't mean that you should upload a photo or video from five or ten years ago though--especially if your appearance has been drastically altered since then.

I once had a date with someone I'd met online and when he came up to me at our designated meeting place (a local coffee shop), I honestly didn't even know who he was at first! He looked so completely different from his profile that I didn't know he was already in the coffee shop when I arrived and if it wouldn't have been for the fact that he already knew my name and greeted me using his name, I would have remained completely oblivious.

He had clearly presented himself in his profile as someone who was much younger than his actual age. I was attracted to his younger self. Both of our feelings would have been salvaged if he had been honest from the beginning.